My Story

In 2006 I was depressed and unsure of what to do next in my life. It was becoming clearer and clearer to me that I was coming to the end of where my way of being, belief system and life strategies could take me and I had a strong persistent feeling that if I did not change, my life was going be like Groundhog day; every day living out the same old feelings, patterns and beliefs. Even when I was doing good things I felt detached, incapable and bad about myself. Even if the external world seemed different each day my relationship with it was in a box that I had explored all the corners of. I couldn't stand the notion of living with these same issues for the rest of my life – to become like my 80 year old grandmother who was still upset about issues from her childhood 70 years ago, reliving the traumas and limitations of a 10 year old. I was terrified that I would end up living that same way.

It was also clear to me that to change at the level I wanted and needed to I would have to make this the #1 thing in my life. I also knew that I may have to let go of some of the pieces of who I thought I was, how I defined myself and the experience of my life. It was scary at first because I didn't know who I would become but I was unwilling to be the way I was anymore -and I will say that at times during the process I did so much clearing and shifting that I did not quite know my own mind anymore. But it felt so clear and bright compared to what it had been, that I chose to let go of many, many old thought patterns and life strategies and live in a new unfamiliar way.

After I made the decision, in the summer of 2006, it was about 6 months of meditation, affirmations and a some counseling, with only moderate improvement, before my healing really took off. To those of you who are skeptical of these new techniques, I'm going to let you know that when I first heard about EFT and PSYCH-K I thought they were too good to be true. I thought they were probably just feel-good self -help gimmicks that may be nice for a day or so but ultimately superficial. It felt very scary to even consider them because if I opened myself up to the possibility that they would work and they didn't I would be in even deeper despair than before.

During the short time I had gone to talk therapy several years before, I had received some good insights into why I had negative beliefs about myself and life but I was unwilling to go through years of therapy at that rate and with no guarantee of long term deep change. After all, I had a pretty clear view of WHY my life was unfulfilling but I didn't know HOW to change. If you have seen the movies (The Secret, What the Bleep Do We Know? and others) you know that your internal dialog, feelings and beliefs are important influences. You know that if you constantly feel and think you are unlovable you are going to attract to yourself people and situations that mirror this belief back to you and push away those that would contradict it. I had been aware of this for many years but the negative self-talk continued and I was drowning in it.

My first real glimmer of hope was in the work of cellular biologist Dr. Bruce Lipton, Ph.D., in his wonderful and informative book The Biology of Belief. He explained how 95% of our consciousness is unconscious and many sabotaging beliefs are imprinted there especially during the first six years of life. These beliefs can effect our physical and mental health (this is called epigenetic control). He recommended PSYCH-K and Energy Psychology techniques, saying about his own experience, "When I began to use these techniques my life changed on a dime." When I read this testimonial it seemed inconceivable to me that anything could work that deeply so quickly. Could it actually be true that I could just release beliefs that had been keeping me feeling so unhappy and unfulfilled for years -- feelings I had been trying to force myself to get rid of since high school with little change, and to do so in a short time? Interestingly, a friend had given me a CD of Bruce Lipton's shortly before I made the decision to look for my healing -- without me even asking for it! Sometimes I think the universe brings us what we need before we are completely aware that we are seeking it. However, like I said, it took me six months of slow incremental change before I tried these techniques.

Upon trying EFT and PSYCH-K, profound changes began to happen very quickly. During this process I used these techniques some on my own but also in several deeply transformative sessions with two fantastic local EFT practitioners. Parts of me that had been splintered off for years began to come together and a sense of safety, balance and acceptance became part of my normal internal world. Many negative thoughts that had been part of my daily life simply did not arise anymore. Even if I tried to think of them, they didn’t resonate in me - the triggers were no longer there. The criticism or negative thought would just disintegrate because it no longer made sense within my new paradigm. I began to feel things and do things that I never could before. For example, I went by myself on a three month trip to South Africa . I started to truly feel like a welcomed part of my local community instead of like an outsider -- though I had been involved in local groups and activities for years. My feelings about and connection to my body changed. My relationship with my parents greatly improved. My fear of death became almost non-existent. My fear of public speaking went away. I felt happy most of the time for no particular reason. I studied web site design and created this web site and this emotional healing practice among many other changes. Before my healing, I was never able to make a long-term decision about something I truly wanted to do; I struggled through short-lived projects or pursued things because I thought I should. Now I can say that anything feels possible.

I used to be an activist and very angry about the government, environmental degradation, materialistic modern culture and on and on...Doing this internal healing has cleared much of the constant state of anger, fear, and despair I felt about the world situation. And though I don't live in denial about what has happened or what is happening in the world I am able to feel joyful about the present and carry the intention to put my energy into a better world and the spiritual changes happening on the planet. Living in anger and fear hurts me, depresses my immune system and distorts my outlook on life. It in no way heals the oceans or stops a war. My focus is now on creating what I want and serving the best in life instead of fighting against what I don't want. Read my mission statement.

One of the issues I worked on specifically with PSYCH-K was being able to listen to my intuition and trust the choices I make. When I say ‘intuition’, I am not referring to a vague inclination, but a persistent, direct, clear knowing of what I should do. In a very short amount of time this new connection to my intuition lead to an inspiration to help others along their path to wholeness, love and the manifestation of their deepest inspiration, in the same way I was helped. I soon noticed other obstructions beginning to fall away and my appetite for this work continued increasing. I have a strong belief that if you have been attracted to my site it is no accident and that you and I can get great results together. I look forward to connecting with you soon.

-Fraeda Scholz
EmoWell-being Energetics

Read my personal story of receiving Reconnective Healing.

"We cannot teach people anything;
We can only help them discover it within themselves."
~ Galileo Galilei