2. PSYCH-K Success Story

"A few weeks ago I did a PSYCH-K "Relationship Balance" with a surrogation in anticipation of visiting a my brother who I have become distant from. I was going to travel from my liberal west coast town to a very conservative mid-western state and small town, to see him and his family. I had not seen him in several years. We were once very close, but over the years, took much different routes in life. We are in our mid 50’s now, and his last son just joined the Military right out of high school. The strain of our differences had me wondering what family ought to mean to me at this stage in life. But I was determined that we reconnect and that I be in some way his dear little sister once again. He has a very responsible, stressful job, and I wanted to be careful not to bring extra drama into his life. I’d be staying at his house, and have no car while I was there.

So about 4 days before going on the trip I did a relationship balance with Fraeda, where I described the kind of outcome I was after, what it would look like, feel like, what he would say to himself about my visit. Fraeda became a surrogate for him and did the balance on his behalf. The initial scan showed he was weak on almost all energy points. I was shocked at how weak his “field” had been before the balance, and I felt compassion and joy at the prospect of things being different and renewing our family tie. By the time we were finished balancing, he was strong throughout. A few days later I left on my week long trip. Whereas the last two visits had had some tense moments, fear, anger, this visit came off very smoothly. We had many long talks and I was so grateful at the finesse we both had, and how thoroughly we could discuss things while still staying in harmony. I plan to visit him again next year.
-Louise

3. EFT Tapping Tip: Secondary gain

This tip is about addressing secondary gain. Sometimes a person will get some change on an issue using EFT but hits a wall and no matter what they do they cannot get their behavior to shift. One very important thing to check for is "secondary gain". Secondary gain is when someone is getting a benefit from having a problem, issue or illness.

Example 1: A person is on disability for chronic back pain. If they heal the back pain they have to go back to working a job they hate. This issue will have to be addressed before their back pain can go away.